I like to write. In therapy, one of the things we are working on is me taking the time to do things that are “fun” for me. I have this tendency to turn the fun things into “work” things. Walk of Shame was never supposed to be a “career change” – It was originally to get free drinks and meet girls. I love to travel, so I accidentally started a travel agency. I like to bowl, so I have to enter tournaments and try to win money. I like wrestling, so I’m going to start a podcast and do commentary. You get the point.
I used to get paid to write – Largely about politics, but that was when politics was actually about… politics. But I always seem to find a bit of focus when I write, and for someone with a superpowered AuDHD brain – a little bit of focus makes a LOT of difference.
One of the things that I have really struggled with – especially over the last two years of mental and physical health issues, is the concept of “fitting in.” Listen, I long ago made peace with the fact that “I’m not for everyone” but that can get isolated very quickly. Lonely.
My friend shared this the other day, and it smacked me directly in the mouth:
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People with ADHD have what’s called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). It’s an extreme emotional response to perceived criticism or rejection.
Your brain can’t regulate the emotional pain, so a small comment feels like a devastating attack. A minor correction feels like total failure. Someone’s tone feels like hatred.
It’s not oversensitivity. It’s not being dramatic. Your brain literally can’t modulate the intensity of that emotional response.
It’s neurological, not a character flaw.
#adhdawareness #adhdlife #adhdsupport
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I think that might be why I had such a rough few months in Key West. I had a few “space” places where I felt comfortable and when those places were taken away, I was lost. I believe “rudderless” was the word that I used.
So I’ve spent the start of 2026 trying to find my tribe. I joined a bowling league and my team and everyone there has been really nice and supportive so far. I made some amazing new friends thanks to Good Brother LG bringing me into The Crow’s Nest, and it found me an awesome podcast cohost to balance out my crazy brain. I’ve leaned on my crew from Lethal, who God Damn… It’s been what? 25 years? I was a literal kid when I was writing for Scoopswrestling and 411wrestling and Wrestling Uncensored and Lethal. The fact that we’ve all mostly stuck together and talk almost every day is amazing to me.
Wrestling is going to heal the world. As long as Wrestlemania tickets get cheaper.
I think writing helps me not only share my feelings, but FEEL my feelings, if that makes sense. If you know me, you know I don’t stay negative for long. I’ve got to do a better job of advocating for myself so that I don’t get so easily frustrated at being misunderstood. That’s not anybody’s fault – I don’t understand MYSELF sometimes. But I guess that’s the journey. One of the things that I am learning about growing up with undiagnosed AuDHD is that unfortunately there were a lot of resources and support that I didn’t get that might have helped. But hey, we are here NOW, and one thing that my superpower brain is really good at is figuring stuff out.
Just… Be Kind. Not just to me (But please also me) but just overall. We never know what struggle people are going through, and we don’t know what battle they are fighting. Let’s manifest some grace and understanding and compassion this week. Let’s see the good in others. Let’s celebrate our shared happiness.
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